Digging through some old stories and ran across this one, that I wrote after the first Gathering. Come on new guys, get those Dogs off the porch and come join us.
The Gathering
Big Dogs Unleashed 2017
All men dream, but not equally. Those that dream at night in the dark recesses of their minds, awake in the morning to find out it was fantasy. But those that dream in the day, are dangerous men, for they may act on their dreams, with open eyes, to make them possible.
This is how I try to live my life. Sometimes you find yourself acting on a dream that you didn't self-consciously set out to do, but out of necessity, or providence you find yourself in the middle of it, and when you succeed, the gratification is overwhelming. One that comes to mind was becoming a Big Dog biker. For 9 years I worked on Dogs, dreaming that one day I would have some of that American iron between my legs, that I could call my own. In reality it wasn't a Big Dog I was dreaming of, it was another brand. Being originally from California, and having a second cousin that lives in Big Bear, California, my natural inclination was to go that direction. Until that wounded puppy landed in my lap and changed my life forever. Having used the Big Dog Biker forum for years, to keep other people's Dogs barking, I joined.
It didn't happen over night, but slowly I came to the realization that there was more to owning a Dog than just riding and working on them. Call it a cult, a community, gang or family, what ever you want, but I was making friends on the Internet. Who’d thought, and I was doing it, typing with one finger.
As of this writing, I have 113 names in my contacts list of new friends I've talked with. Granted, a lot of them have fallen by the wayside, but if they ever decide they need to talk to me again, I can call them by name when I answer; they are a friend.
Another dream comes into play. Naturally being the type of person that likes to meet people, I set out to start meeting my new friends in person. What I discovered was it was a two part goal. One; the guys who's Dogs I was working on weren't on the forum, and I was running into other Dog owners that weren't either. Here's the funny part, none of the people that I've got to join the forum, have posted more than a hand full of times, and some have never posted at all. What's the old saying? You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. Hence part three of my two part goal, I just didn't know it yet.
Step two seemed easy enough. I started with the guys in my area, saying, "Hey, were going to be riding in your area, do you want to hook up?" This worked well for the most part, but only a couple turned out to be
good friends, the others could really care less. Hence, another part of part three, I just didn't know it yet.
The next step, because the wife and I travel so much, I started getting a hold of guys in the areas we were traveling to, and sat down and talked over beer and / or food. This seemed to be the key, because 99% of those, I can truly call friends.
Next we started doing lunch rides. We'd pick a location, and let people know, in a 250 mile radius, what we were doing, and low and behold, people started showing up. When they had to put in a little effort to meet you, you have an even better friend. And what do friends that ride do? Meet up at Rallies, and they bring their friends, that become your friends. This is all well and good, better than I could ever imagine, but something was missing. Very few people were doing what I was doing, so it was lacking it full potential.
Then someone had an idea, it wasn't my idea, but it was a grand idea. A renaissance, a mixture of the old and the new, a blending of cultures and ideas, a Gathering of the Dogs. Some things in life, you just need to experience to fully appreciate what's been laid before you. Like eating rattle snake, or riding the Dragons Tail, or attending a Gathering of Big Dog Bikers. A bike rally it wasn't, a family reunion, similar, but not. A peace conference? I never would have thought, but after the outcome, some thought so. Each individual that attended came with their own ideas of what it was going to be, and then they themselves made it something special. For myself, when I was asked to organize this idea, I was thinking lunch ride with sleep over, not an event of a lifetime. Like I said earlier, sometimes you find yourself in the middle of something before you realize what you have your hands on. When you have a dream or goal, don't limit it to your size, make it unrealistically bigger than you think possible. Set those goals in concrete, then organize your plans in the sand, because you'll have to move them around to achieve said goal. Part three of my two part goal, couldn't be seen, when I set out to meet my new friends in person, but a Gathering of others, wanting to do the same, is were the rubber meets the road. This is what is missing from all internet social Media, and forums, a simple hand shake, smile, and a beer. Have we discovered a way to prevent war? I doubt it, but I know there won't be any animosity between me and Germany or Finland, at least with those I've shared a beer with.
Now the big question, will there be another Gathering like this? No, at least not for me and the others that were there. It's like loosening your virginity, the events afterwards are great, but nothing will compare to the first time. Big Dogs Unleashed 2017 was just that, a group of un-chained
Dogs running wild and free, in a pack, sharing the same watering hole, and barking at whatever the Dog next to him is barking at.
Where am I at with my goals and dreams? I've met 55 new friends, I've added 14, gathering others together. Others have made new friends in person, and still others have experienced the forum in person. I've seen part three of my two part goal come to life right before my eyes. I've now set my dream bigger than I think possible, to achieve by myself. The next step is to out grow Flint Oaks Resort, and then next will be to find others to start doing this in other parts of the country and other parts of the world. Let's take this forum to the outer limits of what anyone can think possible. Big Dog is back, and the next generations of Dog owners are going to need help, so our community is going to need to be tight. Each of us has our strengths and weaknesses. And the new guy will be more impressed when he's pointed to the right persons for answers, and the only way to achieve this, is know your brothers personally.
Shame on those who didn't show up because you thought you had a personal problem with someone else. You missed the very reason you should have been there. If you love your Dog, learn to love those that share your love for Dogs, and let’s keep the rubber on the road forever.