You can push the pins out with a very small screw driver, it's a bitch I accually broke one on the rear signal. Found the same type of connector in an old computer.
My computer tech gave me them free. Older 4 pin cpu fan connectors. Should be easy to find. Cut the wires and spliced it, and has been working perfectly for over a year.
Thanks everyone! I got it apart this morning and was able to bend the tabs back up and use the old connector. Turn signal works now I hope for good .knock on wood !